Overcome FEAR of SUCCESS, What if I make it?!

I was talking to one of my clients yesterday who is a professional in the financial industry and he's starting a new Venture in that same industry that could potentially make him very wealthy and successful. His problem is that he's not taking the necessary actions. Honestly, his idea is a brilliant idea that could be a potentially million-dollar idea. He is not taking the necessary actions and we were focusing on this challenge in our coaching session, yesterday.

When I started asking questions, we both realized that he has this belief that: “if eventually this idea works out, he will not be happy with the result!” He explained that he thought if he eventually becomes wealthy and successful, that would be painful because some people might want to kidnap his kids, he will lose a lot of his friends because they don't want to hang out with that wealthy guy and somehow, his life will be jinxed and that fear I could say “the fear of success” was paralyzing him...

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VISUALIZATION DOESN'T WORK

VIZUALISTION doesn’t work?!

Personal development gurus tell us to do mental visualization on a regular basis if we want to achieve our goals. They advise us to visualize the moment we are crossing the finish line and reaching our dreams. I'm here to tell you that this is bad advice. This is actually incomplete advice that can actually decrease your chances of reaching success! 

  Research in positive psychology has shown us that we need to do TWO other mental visualization activities on a regular basis in order to increase our chances of achieving our goals:

   Number ONE is to visualize all the necessary actions steps that we need to take in order to get to the finish line.  For example, if you're dieting and you want to lose weight you need to visualize what kind of meals you need to prepare and what kind of physical activities you need to do on a regular basis.

   Number TWO is to visualize how you are going to overcome the hurdles...

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GAIN BACK YOUR MOTIVATION WITH THIS TRICK

Gain Back Your Motivation with THIS TRICK

Today I was talking to one of my clients, and she was telling me that she is struggling financially, and when I noticed the way she was explaining her situation to me, I noticed that she was constantly repeating the fact that she was weaker in comparison to her competitors in the market, and she didn't have much to offer compared to the leaders in the industry and basically the fact that she was not good enough in this current economic situation.

 At that moment, I remembered the concept of explanatory styles. Dr. Martin Seligman talks about the importance of the way we explain the adversities of life to ourselves:  1- Are we talking about those adversities in terms of being personal: Is it because of me that this is happening? 2- Pervasive: Does it affect all areas of my life? 3- And is it permanent or is it something that goes away pretty soon?

I told this client about the importance of explanatory styles, and she instantly...

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BAD ADVICE: You can ACHIEVE any DREAM

Personal development gurus say: “You are responsible for a 100% of the results in your life! You can achieve any goal that you set your mind to!”. They even quote Napoleon Hill (The author of the acclaimed book “Think and Grow Rich”) to said, “Whatever your mind believes and conceives, you can achieve!”.

Today, I’m here to tell you that that's not true at all! Let me tell you why: Take the case of happiness. Based on research done by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirski and other experts, we now know that 50 % of happiness is actually genetic! Based on research done on identical twins and fraternal twins, we have come to realize that 50% of happiness is pretty much unchangeable. Another 10% goes back to outside events and circumstances. For example, you don't have any control over natural disasters or the fact that you might lose all of your family in a tragic accident. Now if somebody says, “You can control all the results in your life, and you can...

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Affirmations Don't Work?

Personal development gurus tell you to repeat positive affirmations on a daily basis. Affirmations like: "Every day, in every way, my life is improving for the better!" REALLY?! Do you REALLY believe that this stuff works?! Let me tell you this: research and positive psychology has shown us that unrealistic optimism can not only increase your chances of getting depressed, but also decrease your chances of finding success!

Let me tell you why:

Number ONE: When you have irrational optimism, you won't take the necessary steps in order to achieve success!

Number TWO: You will take on hugely irrational risks like somebody who is wasting their money at the casino just hoping for the events to turn!

And number THREE: You will take on irrational goals. You might weigh only 50 kilograms at this moment, but you want to be the heavyweight boxing champion within three months just because you are optimistic!

Now, if you are tired of wasting time, money, and energy on baseless random self-help...

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